This post is long overdue and I am excited to be sharing this. We all tend to judge others on their beliefs, appearance, character, values, etc. The list goes on and on. Judging is a two-way thing. Not only do we judge others, but we judge ourselves.

The kind of judging I am talking about means to:


1. form an opinion or conclusion about.


We can all be quick to judge. Quick to judge ourselves and others. So, let’s break them both down.

Judging others ↓

When we judge, sometimes we don’t even recognize that we’re judging. It becomes a habit. There are several different measures of reasoning behind judging:

  1. To boost our self-confidence.
  2. To hurt others.
  3. To gain attention.

Take a second and think about your intentions when you judge people. After deciding which number best describes your motive, think about it. Ask yourself, “Why do I do this to (#1, 2, or 3)?” & “What do I gain from doing this?” Do you keep your thoughts about others inside or do you share them? Both are still judging, but if you are sharing your thoughts, it can do more damage. Be careful with your words because you can’t take them back. My mom has always told me to think before I speak, and believe me when I say, I don’t always think before I speak. In fact, I can be very blunt at times. I know I need to work on this, but know that you are not alone. I can guarantee that everyone has judged either themself or others. We are not perfect, and that’s okay. Let’s just try to remember the outcome of the things we say and do. All of that said, take a look at the quote below.

“Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are.”

▸Wayne Dwyer

Judging yourself ↓

It is far too easy to judge, let alone judge ourselves. When we constantly judge ourselves, it will wear and tear you down. Whether it’s consistently looking in the mirror, critiquing our looks and even our style, or downplaying ourselves to others, it hurts. Comparing ourselves to others is something we all get caught up in doing. I could honestly write an entire post on “comparing”. We all do this; each and every one of us. Constantly judging ourselves takes a toll on our mental health.

There will always be people who live a “better life”, have “better clothes”, and are “more attractive”, etc. This will never change, but what can change is our outlook. Sometimes (and I know you’ve heard this before) we just need to not pay attention to others. Take another look at the quote above. Let us not be defined by others because there is so much more to life than worrying and talking about other people. Just be you!

Stay tuned for the news you have all been waiting for. It is coming very soon. It is a two part series explaining something very exciting for me and my family!

Bible Verse of the Week:

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” ▸Matthew 7:1-2